‘What am I going to do about it? Am I going to own up to that mistake I made at work before someone else can figure it out and offer to clean up the mess?’ ‘Maybe it’s “I made a mistake at work and nobody has found out about it yet but I’m anticipating the fact that they will and it’s keeping me up at night,”‘ she says. What are you feeling? Why? And what can you do about it? That’s self-awareness. That’s because I value efficiency,’ she says.įirst be honest with yourself, says Sarah.

‘They are the two twin engines of everything that I do. When it comes to getting what you want Sarah says honesty and politeness are also fundamental. While it may sound like common sense, Sarah points out a lot of people simply don’t think about the outcome of their behaviour. ‘Then don’t do it and anticipate those consequences and act differently to orchestrate the best possible outcome for yourself.’ ‘Think “what are the consequences of what I am about to do?” You’ve been riled up by your boss or colleague and you’re about to dash off an angry email – what’s the likely consequence of that?’ says Sarah. ‘These are the folks who have all the tools and know how to use them.’ Learn your ABCsīefore you react to anything think ABC – actions and behaviour have consequences. Total f*cking grownups are the ‘pinnacle of the evolution of adulting’ according to Sarah. ‘They just haven’t quite managed to put it all together yet and those are the people I can help become total f*cking grownups.’ ‘There are going to be some points in column A and B where we’re like “oh I do that, I’m not always the most reliable’ or ‘I have a hard time accepting criticism and admitting when I’m wrong,’ but we want to do better. When it comes to theoretical grownups, Sarah says most of us reside in this category because we are ‘going to have some qualities of big f*cking babies’. ‘They’re lazy and unreliable, they’re impolite and are intentionally non-adulting.’ ‘They’ve had all the opportunity in the world to understand what it means to be mature and responsible and to take accountability for their actions and they just don’t care. ‘Big f*cking babies don’t bother,’ says Sarah. Sarah says that good behaviour is hopefully modelled for us by the adults around us, like our parents or teachers, and it gives us the opportunity to see what the right and best path forward is. ‘We can’t be mature and responsible, those concepts are foreign to us, we don’t even know how our toes work.’ Sarah says: ‘We all start out as actual babies, we know nothing and we’re expected to know nothing. The stages are simple: Babies, Big F*cking Babies, Theoretical Grownups and Total F*cking Grownups. Buckle up because you’re about to gain 15 years worth of maturity without ageing a day! The evolution of a Total F*cking GrownUp

Cringe by sarah brown